So, you’ve been waiting on God for a spouse for some time now. At first, you started off strong, filled with fervor, and zeal for what God had for you. But now, you find yourself watching everyone around you getting engaged or married. You’re creeping up into your 30’s and now you’re starting to wonder to yourself: ‘God why am I left out?’ The strange thing is after a while you start feeling content being single. Like, WAAY too content being single, to the point where you are not concerned much about your spouse. Everyone is asking you about who you’re dating or if you’ve met someone and the only thing you can wonder to yourself is: ‘Is there something wrong with me?’ ‘Am I called to be single for the rest of my life?’
Just this week, I was having a conversation with my boss about eating at Subway. He chuckled a bit and told me that he could probably guess the top three subs that I would like eating. Unfortunately, each time he guessed one, I cringed and then laughed at what he said. There was no WAY that I would order anything remotely close to what he was guessing. Those subs not only didn’t suit my tastes, but they also did not suit what I needed to maintain the body I had been given to take care of.
I then smiled warmly and told him exactly which ones I would like and we began to laugh as I guessed all of what he wanted correctly(my perception of people is high). It was kind of bizarre to me that this man that I had known for a while guessed the completely OPPOSITE of what I not only desired to eat but needed to maintain what God gave me. Luckily for us, God is not like this at all, when He searches our hearts desires He can tell not only if they are something we truly want as well as if they are something we need.
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Have you ever felt like you’ve gone down the wrong path? There was warning sign after warning sign telling you that this was not the door God had for you, yet still you went down the wrong path anyway. You feel like you’ve picked the wrong degree, the wrong job, and maybe even the wrong person to enter a relationship into with. You didn’t listen to God at all, nor did you consult Him when you went down this path, you just went on your own pathway.
The truth is you wanted that woman to be your future wife so bad, you never slowed down to make sure God was actually speaking to you. When it came to school, you simply just went with what everyone else said you’d be good at, rather than listening to God. Your job just ended up being something you chose to just ‘pay the bills’ because you never once in your life just tried to wait on God and what HE wanted. If this is you, there is still hope if you believe in God. The God you believe in is a heavenly Father who is ready to step in on your behalf, even when you’ve made what you feel like is a mess of things.
Could you imagine two sisters standing one next to the other being told by their Father that He had a gift to give each one of them, but they would have to wait for it. Both initially believed the father with the same level of faith, but one sister received the gift before the other. Yet still, the other sister sits while she watches her sister enjoy her gift as the years pass on by. Did the sister who received the gift first necessarily have a stronger faith than the other sister? This is not always the case. Believe it or not, having faith that’s able to stretch out years of waiting on God for something, takes more strength than just receiving what God has for you in a short amount of time. Still, some days it gets frustrating. You start wondering, ‘Did I really hear from God on that?’. When is this going to happen? Am I doing something wrong to delay this promise from coming? Why are you withholding things from me God?!’
Imagine two people were given a seed, which was placed in the ground to watch over and cultivate. Both people were given an instruction on how to care for the seed to cause it to grow. Person A, was told to hop on one foot near the seed at least twice a day, until he was tired. Person B, was told something similar, but because he had so much KNOWLEDGE about taking care of and growing plants, he REFUSED to take care of the seed the way the instructions stated. No, instead he went to Google and YouTube to research and figure out HOW to grow the type of seed he was given and began doing NORMAL things to take care of a seed he thought was average.
Man A obeyed the instruction and hopped on one foot every day, and immediately saw some type of growth in his seed, whereas the man who became doubtful and discouraged by the instruction saw no growth at all. As man B saw man A begin to get fruit and growth from what he was doing with great ease, he became frustrated and discouraged! ‘Why is this man getting any growth at all? What he is doing is foolish! It makes absolutely no sense according to everything I’ve researched and all I know!’. Unfortunately for man B, the person who gave them the seed was NOT an average man, but was God, and was the One who gave him the instructions as well.
—> Struggling with feeling like people are stealing your purpose? Read this!<–
So, you finally found God’s will for your life. You’ve found your purpose; you found the path that you were meant to go down. You spent time in prayer seeking God and He’s finally revealed to you where you truly belong. You now realize every door that was shut on you and everyone who rejected you in the past was God gently nudging you and guiding you into what He really wanted you to do. The door was opened to you and you walked through it without looking back.
Unfortunately, when you went into your new season you now notice that people that never even talked about doing the work you’re doing are suddenly trying to do what God told YOU to do! What’s worse is that it’s plain as day that they are not graced to handle that call and they are trying to force something that God never ordained in the first place. What do you do when someone is committing identity theft in the Spirit against you?! There’s no need to fret or be distraught over this because God has seen it all, let’s turn to 1st Corinthians :
–>Trusting God in Your single season<–
Imagine being in a hot and dry desert. Your lips are cracked and parched due to thirst and your stomach is rumbling due to hunger. You look around, but don’t see any water or trees for shade miles around. The skin on your face is scorched due to you not having a covering on your head. It’s not that you weren’t offered a covering at the beginning of your journey. The people who led the tour knew that you would need one and continued to offer it to you. However, you aggressively denied what you can now clearly see you desperately needed. What’s worse is that you fought tooth and nail to bring what YOU thought was an adequate covering to shield you from the burning sun.
You didn’t know the conditions were going to be this bad, you say. You didn’t know that it was going to get this hot, but the tour guides knew. How often do we do this with God? He knows exactly what protection we need, what covering we need, but we refuse the one that He offers. We refuse even His own protection! We live our life without His covering—without His blessing!